How amazing is the idea of starting somewhere new? A start where you can change your narrative change your atmosphere and change your routine. That all sounds so amazing until reality sets in and it’s difficult to adjust and acclimate to your new situation. The idea seems so inviting.
The struggles and worries you currently have can easily go away by starting something new. Often times we dream of leaving all of our worries behind to forget everything that we are really dealing with.
This seems like the easiest choice to make. What are you trying to avoid? Yes, it’s easier to leave your problems, and yes it’s easy not to call that person back and makeup with them. And YES, it’s easy to not say sorry for something you don’t think you did wrong. That all sounds like a lot of work. Is that your way of not dealing with your problems head-on? Are we trying to avoid something?
But what happens when a move occurs or you start at a new job or school? Whether it’s a forced or a planned change, change can be hard to adjust to. Starting somewhere fresh is easy for some but for others, it’s more difficult to comprehend the ample amount of change that occurs. The most difficult of all is changing a routine that seemed difficult before but now it’s even more difficult. We have to stop and ask ourselves how can we make adjusting seem less difficult and more seamless.
Preparation is the number one thing that can help alleviate any future distress. Preparing ahead of time can alleviate any future anxiety that may come. when you prepare, there is an idea in your mind of things that could happen. like getting ready for school to start or starting a new job. Preparing ahead could make you more comfortable with what’s to come. Like taking your child on a tour of their school so they feel the most prepared. Or asking your boss questions to prepare for your first day on the job. Things may feel overwhelming but the more you prepare about things before they happen, the more accepting you could be of the situation. Why do you feel like people prepare for the worst but expect the best? They expect great things to happen to prepare for the worst so the worst isn’t unexpected.
Starting this new experience in your life may be the most exciting and rewarding thing. How you handle your anxiety and feeling acclimated can help make the first few weeks that much more manageable. Make sure to check in with yourself, and see what you need. Is it comfortability? Is it safe? Is it routine? By asking yourself some of the tough questions you have all the answers from within.
So ask yourself this question now, is all of this work to move and avoid your problems worth not calling that friend back and making up with them? Is avoiding worth not saying sorry, and moving forward from your problems?